My Story

No dreams but goals

I am a descendant of a family of 11 children. That has (its) advantages, such as getting many gifts. However, that concerns the material. Another side is that finding connection within a large family as the youngest, for me, meant learning at a young age to air my opinions, learning to stand up for what I needed, but most of all learning to work from my own strengths to achieve goals I had in mind.

As a young girl, my goals were seen as cute dreams, but to me they were goals. I didn't want to be cute, I had dreams and I strived for them.

The first person who imparted to me that, I can become anything I envision as long as I am willing to work for it was my father.

As a 9-month-old baby, I made the crossing to Holland with my mother, brothers and sisters. My father had already gone before us. He worked hard to be able to reunite his family in Holland.

In my father's eyes, I could become anything I wanted to be. He was the first to teach me to think in terms of possibilities and not limitations.

This eventually became a common thread in my life.

I have had wonderful times in my life, but also times when I was glad I had survived the day without falling apart. Those days when you think " Everybody wants a piece of me." Those were the days when I had to pull out all the stops to turn the limitations I imposed on myself or thought my environment imposed on me, by my ethnicity, gender, drive or other concoctions, into at least 1 positive turning point, 1 moment of success just for myself.

Because if I don't feel good, I can't give my family, my friends, my clients and the people who work for me on assignment what they need without losing my own self in it.

Personally, I get cramped when I feel I have to fit into a frame. Why should human beings have to fit into a framework? I firmly believe that if you allow each person to live and function in his/her power, comfort zones are no longer an issue. I do not strive for a zone of comfort, but for zones in which I can utilize all my potential without barriers that I create myself or allow others to create for me.

My coaching style is characterized by clear communication, decisiveness and purposefulness. My clients experience an efficient clear approach, with a touch of warmth. My overall commitment is a balance of reason and feeling.

Square Thinking represents your own commitment within your own frameworks. Do you choose to stay within 1 square as a comfort zone or do you choose to make use of all the spatial possibilities around you?